Do Calories Matter? (weight loss on a whole food lifestyle)

Hi folks! I want to talk about a touchy subject in the whole food, keto + paleo community. CALORIES!

Disclaimer: This post is being written by someone who is actively working to lose body fat, get fit and feel great. I feel like I’m accomplishing that, so I’m sharing. If you’re happy with your current health status and eating habits, this post isn’t for you. 

Once upon a time I once was definitely in the calories don’t count camp. I thought that as long as I was eating unprocessed foods I could eat as much as I wanted.

side by side comparisons of a woman's weight loss

 While I’m not for calories in/ calories out… binge eating, or chronic over eating will infact make you gain weight.  Why eating whole foods matters and why I don’t believe in tracking calories for the long run.

Before I get into the science stuff, I want to give you the rundown of my personal experiencewhich while anecdotal, will always be my main source for learning. As always, I highly encourage all of you to be your own advocates and students of your body. Listen to it, it will tell you what it needs! I’m not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician. I’m a chef, a mom, a woman in her thirties with a history of obesity and autoimmune disease.

I’m a woman who has worked my ass off to lose body fat and gain muscle, to feel better and to get healthy. I’m someone who has not had it easy, and I’m someone who decided to never give up. As long as it takes, I’m in it.

I have a history of overeating. I can admit that now. It took me a long time to see HOW MUCH FOOD I was consuming. My whole life, I would forget when I last ate, but not because it has been so long. I ate mindlessly. I would lie about eating food. It would graze all day and still eat meals too.

The big eye-opener: my first Whole30 back in 2015. It had to overhaul my eating habits. Then I changed the way I ate, and since then it’s changed a few more times. In a nutshell, my body isn’t easily amused. Going paleo was a start, but it’s wasn’t enough for me to get the body I wanted. Going AIP really helped reduce inflammation. It’s crazy how much inflammation I was carrying around, and in that protocol, I did lose some weight.

Started feeling a lot better. My autoimmune symptoms began to improve. I began to work out. Began lifting, spinning, hiking and Zumba. I gained a lot of muscle and my body changed; my thighs and butt leaned out and bulked with muscle. I began to see definition in my arms. It’s been exciting and fun and empowering….  But months went by and that stubborn belly fat would not budge.

Went lower carb, higher carb. More cardio. Less cardio. I racked my brain trying to think what I was doing wrong???

Got my hormones tested. Found those were out of whack. So I went keto to help balance them out. First I lost water weight… then I lost some body fat. Then the usual 4-5lb fluctuation began again, although my hormones were stabilizing, I felt great and I had energy… soooo what the actual fuck?? (That’s exactly what I thought to myself btw).

So I did what I always do when I need to clean up my diet and/or find out what’s going on… I did a Whole30! A keto version of the program, which I know is not condoned by the program itself. But when you’re on your 5th round…. ya know…. All the rules applied to a low carb, high fat, paleo template. No fat bombs, no treats.

chocolate cookies on wire cooling rack

There I found it… the hidden calories… the spoonful of nut butter, the unnecessary fat bombs… the overeating. I was doing again, but this time with small amounts of fat. But a few extra servings of fat a day add up to whole lotta calories… So I kicked the fat bombs, I quit the nut butter (for inflammatory reasons too). I learned to focus on avoiding starches, getting enough protein and but being mindful with my dietary fat.

Not overeating is not the same as under eating. Etch that into your brain. Over restriction does not equate fat loss. I am enjoying my food, I am satisfied, and I feel like for the first time in my life I don’t have to stress about when or what I am eating next. I don’t have anxiety about not having food or feeling like I have to eat when I am not hungry. I have cued into my bodies hunger cues and I’m truly listening. I realized how often I would eat when I wasn’t really hungry, just because it was “time to eat.”  It has been freeing. I have found my food freedom.

So I am writing this post to break down what I have learned, with the science stuff to back it up… and a little let’s keep our heads and hearts healthy in the process thrown in.

white and blue plate with avocado, radishes, greens, and lemon

Let’s Be Honest… Calories Matter… But Not The Way You Think..

Have you have been honest with yourself. Are you overeating? I think people like to tiptoe around the subject because caring TOO much can lead to unhealthy food issues and even disordered eating. Which I don’t want to cause, this is where I believe re-sets come in handy. I don’t think counting calories or ANY kind of restricted, weight loss protocol will work because diets don’t work. 



How do you learn these habits? PRACTICE.  Via short term resets! (AIP Keto Reset, The Keto Reset Diet or Whole30)…

I do them a few times a year! You really get to know what your baseline is. How you feel when you eat the cleanest…. And how to tap into your body’s natural hunger cues. Forget the clock, when does your tummy tell you to eat!

There is a lot of science to back up the fact that if folks consume a surplus of calories a day they will gain weight. We all burn calories on a daily basis, even if we just stay in bed all day, our bodies use energy to breathe, to stay alive. This is your BASE METABOLIC RATE.  Then there is NEAT; non-exercise activity thermogenesis is the energy expended for everything we do that is not sleeping, eating or sports-like exercise. It ranges from the energy expended walking to work, typing, performing yard work, undertaking agricultural tasks and fidgeting (

Most calorie calculators tell you your base metabolic rate based on your height and weight, then they ask you how active you are, that’s when they calculate your NEAT. This is the kicker though; our NEAT is different for everyone. Do you take the stairs or the elevator? Do you walk your dogs or have a cat? There are a million variations in how many calories your body expends in a day. How much do you work out? Is your job sedentary or are you on your feet all day… etc.

Theoretically, your NEAT would organically increase as your calorie intake does… but that’s not always the case. Point is, if you move more, even if it’s just fidgeting a lot, you burn more. Pretty basic right.

 What You Eat Matters

This study showed that whole foods take more calories to chew and digest, therefore by eating them your body as a result has fewer calories to burn. Not that food itself is necessarily lower in calories, it just takes more calories to eat it. (

Not just to eat it… but to prepare it… anyone else work up a sweat in the kitchen? I know I do! Anywho… I think this is where the notion of “whole food calories aren’t the same”… technically they are… but you also burn more calories preparing, chewing and digesting that food! Yes, some foods burn calories just digesting them… thermogenic foods!

While yes, there are folks that for science, have lived off of 1800 calories of Twinkies for a month to prove that even eating garbage, a calorie deficit will result in weight loss… One: GROSS. Two: I doubt that said scientist disclosed things like energy levels, digestive discomfort (read: diarrhea), sleep and other important markers of health.

I KNOW that eating whole foods nourishes our body on a cellular level and can help ward off and even reverse disease. I have experienced this first hand. So, eat real food.

colorful fruits and vegetables on white background

How Come Some Folks Seem To Be Able To Eat Whatever They Want?

I don’t know about you, but have been guilty of comparison… which by the way is the thief of happiness, so quit that shit. But yes, I USED TO scroll through my feed, reading stories of folks who lost 75lbs (or more) in just a year. The “I went paleo and the weight melted off” testimonies… I would be jealous. I would wish I was seeing the same results. I would look at the pictures of these super fit women, these fitness spokespersons, and their strength and abs and then be shocked that they would follow up their gym session with burgers and fries, or drink wine or eat pizza or smash giant, loaded sweet potatoes on the daily.  I used to think…. How come I eat paleo and workout and don’t look like that?

WELP! The answer is metabolic health. Some folks just burn more calories, a lot more. Between their BMR (base metabolic rate) and NEAT these folks are expending those calories (read: energy). Especially those fitness gurus, their job is to work out. Don’t think it’s not possible to burn 5,000 calories a day? My husband is proof. He gets in over 10,000 steps at work daily, workouts three times a week doing calisthenics and then does long distance cycling 3-4 times a week. He expends SO MUCH ENERGY, it’s hard for him to keep up. He has to eat A LOT. He eats ice cream every day. But before he began cycling… well, he carried around an extra 17lbs. Upping his energy expenditure, he lost 17lbs in 4 months.

This is us, Hi! The top photo was December 2015, bottom photo June 2017.

woman and man on the beach

Like my husband, a lot of health and fitness role models out there can eat a lot more than you and I, and I consider myself very active… but I sure as hell don’t work out 2 hours a day. Some folks wake up, go for a jog or do yoga, walk their dogs, then head to work, and then go to the gym and sometime before bed squeeze in a Tabata… like who works out that much? Not me. Not even close. Some people MOVE all day long. Delivery men, nurses, teachers, fitness instructors etc. Some folks sit all day and then go move for an hour or two in the day.

muscular tattooed man lifting heavy weights


Now let’s throw this jolly ol’ wrench in the system:

…the 3500-kcal rule predicts that a person who increases daily energy expenditure by 100 kcal by walking 1 mile (1.6 km) per day will lose more than 50 lb (22.7 kg) over a period of 5 years, the true weight loss is only about 10 lb (4.5 kg), assuming no compensatory increase in caloric intake, because changes in mass concomitantly alter the energy requirements of the body.”

That’s right, as we work out, move and expend more energy our caloric needs change, and as our body changes, our caloric needs change.


Step one: Take a close look at your eating habits. Are you overeating? Mindlessly snacking? Processed junk? Too many non-real food items making their way into your mouth? Do a re-set… try this one!

Step two: After you’ve done a re-set and you’ve kicked sugar and are done mindlessly eating potato chips, it’s time to get an idea of how many calories your body needs to thrive, including enough fuel for your activity level, your hormones etc. You want to FUEL your body so you can thrive! I like Chronometer! It has super great macro recommendations for paleo and keto too! I use the keto on relaxed mode 🙂

Step three: Track your calorie expenditure and intake for 2-3 weeks. Take notes on how you feel, how you slept, if you worked out etc.  Try and find ways to remember what these portions look like (i.e. 4 ounces of protein might be the same size as the palm of your hand).  Work on only eating when you feel hungry. Forget the clock or conventional meal times. Use your intuition. Weight yourself once a month. Take body measurements, take selfies. The scale might not move, but your body fat percentage can change.

Step four: You and your body are one. You’ve really gotten the hang of fueling your body for your activity level and feel really good. Stop tracking. You don’t need to obsess over every bite. Once you find a grove, the natural ebb and flow of your eating habits you will see that it’s not about the meal or the day, you will see that in the larger picture, you fuel your body with whole foods and you stay active you will reach your goals.

Step five: Don’t get too cocky. Everyone needs a reminder every now and then. IF you feel like you’re falling back into old habits,  ask yourself why? Stressed out? Is your cycle regular? If you feel great otherwise but maybe you’re habits weren’t as solid as you liked, try doing another reset.

Remever if you weight lift ,the scale might go up or not move because you’re building muscle! Don’t let the scale dictate your life.


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